This might seem a bit outrageous but 50% of the marriages in USA end up in divorce. You might think you’ve tried your best in the relationship but things aren’t just working between you and your spouse. Sometimes there are big blunders by one partner and sometimes, the spark has just died between the both of you. In this article, we’ll shed light on the top 5 reasons for divorce in the United States of America. We suggest you take a deep breath before going through these reasons though.
The most common reason for divorces in USA (and many other countries) is cheating on your spouse. If you’re officially married to someone and during that marriage, you have an affair with someone else, you can be divorced by your better half on the ground of infidelity. Mostly when one partner is cheating, they start to avoid having conversations with you. Moreover, the intimacy you guys shared beforehand starts to diminish and there are chances of rude behavior as well. So if you think your spouse is being weird or not spending enough time with you, it’s better to make sure everything is fine to avoid an aggressive divorce later.
Another very common reason for divorces is the same old enemy – money. It does not mean that if you’re superrich, you’re bound to have a divorce. It means that issues can arrive when one partner is earning way more than the other and this is causing a strain on their relationship. Many cases in USA have been registered under this banner and the income gap of one spouse over the other has played a crucial part. For example, your wife earns way more than you and due to that, her behavior towards you is not respective anymore. You should try to talk things out before the situation reaches a level where you’ve to call your lawyer.
Lack Of Communication
O boy, O boy! Haven’t we all been there? This might sound clichéd but it’s true. Lack of communication is the 3rd most common reason for divorces. Being busy in your respective works, not giving each other or the children appropriate time and not sharing important stuff has caused numerous divorces. It all starts with ignoring the other person in order to avoid a debate or an argument. Then this becomes a habit. After a certain amount of time, you’re not talking to each other anymore other than the typical greetings or an awkward peck. Reasons are manifold. Being busy, avoiding conversations, having false perceptions about the other spouse, arguments and etc. It’s better to opt for couples therapy before the situation gets out of hand and you end up in the court.
You didn’t see that coming did you! When one spouse gains those extra post-marital pounds and forget to take care of how they look, it can lead to a divorce (sadly). Many studies and surveys in the USA have found out that rapid weight gain and change in energy levels can cause divorces. For example, your wife still goes for yoga and you’re sitting on the couch, munching on French fries and doing well – nothing. Eventually, you’re going to gain weight and look out of shape. Out of shape means unattractive (it’s true). You can’t go hiking with her anymore, you can’t walk the dog anymore and the stuff you guys used to do before, you’re not doing it anymore. This issue can also indirectly lead to the first reason – cheating or an affair. There are chances if you’re not going to take care of yourself and be lazy, your spouse might lose that physical interest in you. So stop sitting on the sofa and go hit those abs in the gym – they’ll help you save those lawyer costs for sure.
This one’s pretty straightforward. If you’re mentally or physically abused in a marriage, there are almost no chances of that marriage continuing. Being yelled at, traumatized and injured is something no one wants or can cope with. And when things reach to the level of domestic abuse, divorce is perhaps, the best option. What you can do is seek counseling before things reach this level. Try to talk to your partner about it or other family members who can influence his/her behavior. A therapy for your better half is never a bad idea too. Just remember – if you’re suffering, your marriage will suffer as well.