So you’re going through a divorce. You certainly won’t be the first and neither are you in the minority. Divorce isn’t something that comes with the same stereotype it once did and more and more people choose to leave relationships that they do not feel are beneficial or happy for them any longer – and that’s okay. But then you also have to consider the legal issues and the unavoidable things that will come your way during the process of divorce. We’re here to give you some pointers on how to make through a divorce as unscathed as possible!
Don’t Fight To Win
It may sound contradictory not to fight your divorce case to win, but what we essentially mean is that since there are two of you involved in this battle, it makes more logical sense to find common ground on every matter as much as possible. Making compromise the gaol instead of trying to get everything is more realistic and achievable, which means you won’t be setting yourself up for disappointment or failure. Not to mention, trying to win everything onto your ide is going to create more conflict, which isn’t desirable. You don’t want to spend more time or money fighting a divorce in court. Of course, you don’t necessarily need to accept every agreement as it is given, either!
Give Your Lawyer a Good Ear
When you hired a lawyer, you hired them because they have more experience in this situation than you do (hopefully!) and because of their legal knowledge. Family law is actually rather complex and it is immensely helpful to have a learned attorney at hand to guide you and to build your case. Creating a strong strategy without knowledge of the law is going to be a losing battle. Not to mention, this is a particularly stressful event in a person’s life and you may not even be thinking as clearly as you would normally. So place your trust in your attorney and lending them an ear is going to take you to better places in this divorce.
While on the topic of lawyers, it is immeasurably helpful when you are completely honest with your lawyer regarding all the relevant facts. Your lawyer isn’t there to judge you, they are there to help you. Besides, these guts have heard a lot in their time, and so there isn’t much you could say that would take them by surprise anyway! It is important that you provide them with as much information as possible and in all honesty, and form there they will live through it all and make use of what is useful. Having credibility strengthens your case, and that is what you are after.
Avoid Venting Online!
Divorces are emotionally taxing. Nobody is going to expect you to keep a cool head on your shoulders at all times and you will have to vent in some way or another. However, it is in your best interest and in the best interest of your case that you avoid venting or badmouthing online, on any social media platforms or other means whee the information is public. This is because if you engage in this, you are basically making the case for the other side stronger. Pictures and posts can be used as evidence in a courtroom, so steer clear of the laptop, PC or phone if you’re in the pits. If it will help, start seeing a therapist or counselor and let out some steam through exercise or a vacation.
Prioritize the Kids
Of course, if there are children involved with the couple who is getting a divorce, it goes without saying that a parent will be deeply concerned about the welfare of their children. But what some parents don’t realize is that arguing about children with your ex-spouse or soon-to-be-ex does more harm to the kids than anything else. Resolving custody issues may need to be done in court, but avoid beginning any battles for the sake of hurting the other person or as a revenge thing. A conflict-free environment for your kids from both parents is the best for every child, creating opportunities for the children in question to build healthy and meaningful relationships with each parent, no matter what the outcomes of the divorce ruling or custody battle are.
Nobody said it would be easy, but try your best to keep a cool head and follow this advice and you should be well on your way to surviving this divorce pretty well!