While divorce may be devastating for both spouses, the only way to break away from the conflicting thoughts eroding sanity is to move on. In some cases, you may even marry, if you meet the right person.
While the first thought to hit you after a divorce, is never again! However, the future is not something you can look into and life happens with its many surprises when you least expect it. Statistics agree, at least 70% of people who undergo a divorce marry again at some point in their lives.
There are some states that have a specific waiting period from your last one to the next one, while there are some others that do not have any. Here are some other law-backed things to consider before you move towards the next phase of your life.
Wait for the Next Step
It is always prudent to avoid rushing into a second marriage after you undergo a divorce.
There are some things to think about and address various emotions that hit you after a difficult divorce.
If you are thinking about how long it may take you to marry again, then know this everyone’s journey is different, so what works for one may not be the same for others. Just take it easy for a while, evaluate your personal life, think about your residual feelings, anger, and resentment for your former spouse, and then move on.
Keep Your Lawyer in the Loop
While there may be only a few potential legal restrictions with your remarriage thing, there may be some you may need to consider, as it may differ from state to state and person to person.
So, it is up to your lawyer to identify the nitty-gritty of your divorce papers. Some divorces may contain decrees that affect remarriage, so if your spouse-to-be is also divorced, then you may have to consider various legal issues.
Other issues that your lawyer and you may have to consider are your alimony status, child support, custody condition, and inheritance details that may affect the way your estate is divided among heirs.
Consider the Emotional Health of the Children
You may think that you have healed emotionally and you’re ready to move on, but it may not be the same for your children. Your children may find it hard to accept the changed equation between you and your former spouse.
Kids often think that their parents may get back together. For them divorce is hard, remarriage of their parents to different people is harder.
The bottom line is, to give them, enough time, to cater to their emotions and don’t introduce your new prospective partner till you are very sure about him/her. If things do not happen between you two, they may find it hard to accept and may go through an emotional roller-coaster ride. When you slow down the process, you are sure of each of the step that comes your way and hence may find greater success in the near future.
Keep it Transparent about Money and Prenuptial Agreement
You may not have thought much about a prenuptial agreement in your first marriage. So, this gives you a chance, to consider your next marriage.
The next time around feel free to discuss it with your fiance about a prenuptial agreement. Believe us, talking about finances helps you enjoy a smoother worry-free future.
A good financial choice will benefit both you and your spouse-to-be and he or she may understand the nuances of money matters too. If someone expresses dissent in discussing money matters with you then this may prove to be a bone of contention in the near future.
Take it to Slow, for the Next Phase of Life
Since you have gone through a divorce you are older and wiser and since can spot potential red flags from a distance. You may have time to evaluate what went wrong, was it your chaotic schedules; you spending long hours away from home. This may ruffle feathers in your future marriage too. So, talk it out with your partner, will he/she be able to handle your current lifestyle?
This is the reason you need certain to contemplate your next step. Investing in yourself is as much important as investing in any marriage. If you are sorted, you may able to sort out the minor dissensions in your future marriage better.