While divorce may be devastating for both spouses, the only way to break away from the conflicting thoughts eroding sanity is to move on. In some cases, you may even marry if you meet the right person.
The first thought to hit you after a divorce is never again! Statistics agree, at least 70% of people who undergo a divorce marry again at some point in their lives. However, the future is not something you can look into, and life happens with its many surprises when you least expect it.
Some states have a specific waiting period from your last one to the next one, while some others do not have any. Here are some other law-backed things to consider before moving towards the next phase of your life.
Wait for the Next Step
It is always prudent to avoid rushing into a second marriage after a divorce.
There are some things to think about and address various emotions that hit you after a difficult divorce.
If you are thinking about how long it may take you to marry again, then know this everyone’s journey is different, so what works for one may not be the same for others. Just take it easy for a while, evaluate your personal life, think about your residual feelings, anger, and resentment for your former spouse, and then move on.
Keep Your Lawyer in the Loop
While there may be only a few potential legal restrictions with your remarriage thing, there may be some you may need to consider, as it may differ from state to state and person to person.
So, it is up to your lawyer to identify the nitty-gritty of your divorce papers. Some divorces may contain decrees that affect remarriage, so if your spouse-to-be is also divorced, then you may have to consider various legal issues.
Other issues that you and your lawyer may have to consider are your alimony status, child support, custody condition, and inheritance details that may affect how you divide your estate among heirs.
Consider the Emotional Health of the Children
You may think that you have healed emotionally and you’re ready to move on, but it may not be the same for your children. The children may not be able to accept the changed equation between their parents.
Kids often think that their parents may get back together. For them, divorce is hard, remarriage of their parents to different people is harder.
The bottom line is to give them enough time to cater to their emotions and not introduce your new prospective partner until you are very sure about them. If things do not happen between you two. They may find it hard to accept and go through an emotional roller-coaster ride. When you slow down the process, you are sure of each step that comes your way and hence may find greater success in the future.
Keep it Transparent about Money and Prenuptial Agreement.
You may not have thought much about a prenuptial agreement in your first marriage. So, this gives you a chance to consider your next marriage.
The next time around, feel free to discuss it with your fiance about a prenuptial agreement. Believe us, talking about finances helps you enjoy a smoother worry-free future.
A good financial choice will benefit both you and your spouse-to-be, and they may also understand the nuances of money matters. If someone expresses dissent in discussing money matters with you, this may prove a bone of contention in the future.
Take it to Slow, for the Next Phase of Life.
Since you have gone through a divorce, you are older and wiser and can spot potential red flags from a distance. You may have time to evaluate what went wrong. Was it your chaotic schedules; you spent long hours away from home? This may ruffle feathers in your future marriage too. So, talk it out with your partner. Will they be able to handle your current lifestyle?
This is the reason you need certain to contemplate your next step. Investing in yourself is as much important as investing in any marriage. If you are sorted, you may better sort out the minor dissensions in your future marriage.